When Jessica & I have days that are very TRYING, I feel sad. I don't want to remember struggling with her daily. I don't want to remember feeling frustrated or withdrawn. I don't want to wish our time together away. She & I are very good at fighting like four year olds.
What I wanted to say, is that I'm trying. Despite her need for more attention than I could possibly give, I'm trying to give her a good dose of quality attention. Today she sat on my lap and we read library books. We read "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein. Perhaps many moms feel like the kind tree - who gives and gives. The child always returns for more, never expressing gratitude. But somehow the tree found much joy in seeing the child happy. Not in receiving accolades, appreciation, or thanks. I too am trying to be more like the tall apple tree.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
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I think it is harder to be a mom of a daughter than of sons...I am trying, too!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post
ReplyDeleteIt's hard when you are being pulled in so many different directions. I am trying too! I have four daughters and my son is the one starving for attention. I have been trying to work on eye contact. My kids love when I stop what I am doing, look them in the eyes and actually listen to what they have to say, or watch what they are doing. Undivided attention is what kids crave. If you figure out a good way to effectively split your time between all four of your kids, please share it with me, I need help too. Love, Cherilyn
ReplyDeleteJennifer, I must tell you I absolutely love reading your blog. I'm so glad you take time out of your crazy busy schedule to post some of your thoughts. So thanks! Dave and I think about you and the family. We pray for you all and especially Jacob every morning and night. I wish we lived closer so we could be more of a support. You inspire me to be a better mother. We love you!
ReplyDeleteDo you think it is a girl thing or an age thing? We have plenty of those kinds of days around our house. I hope we will both grow out of it....for everyone's sake. Let me know if you have any breakthroughs! You are an amazing mom. I don't know how you do all that you do.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a girl thing, although my boys give me "trying" days in other aspects. But I agree with Cherilyn, eye contact makes all the difference in the world! You're doing great, Jennifer! You are amazing in so many ways and an inspiration to everyone around you.
ReplyDeleteEye contact is the trick too. I figure that in the few minutes of personal time that I get with each child, it better COUNT! And I want them to remember it!
ReplyDeleteYou ARE trying, as are so many other mothers. Keep trying, and they will realize years from now all the effort you put in for their behalf.
I love "The Giving Tree" and cry every single time I read it with the kids.
As long as you are trying your best, that is all you can do!
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to see you next week!