When I dreamed about being a mother, I was going to be amazing and fun and nurturing and insightful and approachable. I was going to be a wonderful example, etc. etc.
Some days I do note I have moments of greatness, but most of my mothering is practical, consistent, and boring. I'm an average mom trying to do the same stuff that good moms are doing. It's a bit discouraging, but something I heard Jessica say has cheered me on.
I was driving her to dance last week. Her friend said, "when I grow up, I'm going to be a cowgirl." Jessica turned to her and said, "when I grow up, I'm going to be just a normal mom."
My mom was just a normal mom too. She struggled to balance work, family, home, carpools, cooking, cleaning, etc. She held our hands when we crossed the street and tied our shoes. She yelled sometimes and forgot stuff sometimes. But she was there for everything - the good, the cranky, the excitement, the unjust - all of it. She has cheered me forward more than anybody I know. And somehow, doing all that normal stuff for me has made her extraordinary in my eyes. So I guess I'm glad that I'm just a normal mom.






A normal mom is a good thing to be. Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteI'm happy to be in that club with you! However I see you as way more than normal.
ReplyDeleteWhat vision little Jessica has!
ReplyDeleteHoping to see you soon. When are you going to be in Utah? My little Davis is due for some photos, and I was hoping to hire YOU, but you are so.darn.far.away! We'll be in Utah June 14-sometime after July 4th. Any chance of overlap???
I personally like the idea of being a cowgirl when I grow up! You are a great mom! And you are not just a normal photographer so that has to count for something!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful tribute to mom. She is wonderful and so are you. Being a "normal mom" is hard work and you are such a great example. You inspire so many that you don't even realize. You kids are blessed to have you has their mother. Thanks for the reminder that all of us are trying and this is about as normal as it gets
ReplyDeleteYou are Awesome! I love what you said about your mom. I know Jessica is lucky to have you for her mommy. I can't wait to see you guys this summer!!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Jennifer for the compliment. I love you. You will always be extra ordinary in my eyes. Love, mom
ReplyDeleteHi Jennifer, I finally went private on my blog. Will you email me so I have your address to add you? Thanks, Carolee
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You have more inspiration than you let on. I have appreciated the many emails of comfort and support over the past few months. They have bouyed me up more than you know. You are a wonderful friend, mother and I am certain sister and daughter! Your kids will see more than you do just as you saw more in what your mom was able to do for you growing up. A normal mother? That is so ok! Love you friend!
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